Bullying at work
Micromanagers and bullies have a lot in common they behave in the same way and essentially it is difficult to separate the two. Most of us have experienced bullying personalities in workplaces and workers are often left with no other choice than to leave the workplace. Bullies insert themselves into every area of working life, interfering with any and all attempts for workers to be happy, successful or productive.
More often than not these bullies hold positions of power, their presence is extremely damaging to the work environment, causing high employee turnover rates, worker dissatisfaction, and loss of self-esteem for employees. The bullying behaviour is deliberate and intent in causing hurt and distress.
Obviously bullies always have a target sometimes it is one of the popular and well liked people in the work place. Targeting an individual gives them a mission, and that mission is always destructive.
Bullies believe themselves to be smart hardworking and destined for something better. They will do almost anything to get rid of anyone who they consider a threat to their position.
Backhanded compliments, snide remarks made with a smile, and setting workers up for failure or humiliation are all part of their scheme. Micromanagers, and bullies can be male or female, they come in all shapes and sizes.
Sometimes they are more than one and they work together targeting others. They thrive on chaos and havoc created for employees. Generally in management positions, they will not help in solving problems, but function as if they are not involved and all others should be able to resolve the issues. Acting as if they are not a part or cause of the problem, they may become more aggressive with the intent to undermine, harass, and distress workers.
Victims live under the constant threat of being fired. Control of everyone, everything, and all events (not meant to manage effectively or resolve issues) in the workplace is of paramount importance to micromanagers, and bullies.
Receiving admiration from each other and business clients rate very high on their personal success meter, because they see themselves as the only ones worthy of admiration or praise. When workers are successful with clients or job duties, they set out to downplay, destroy, or fire that employee. Success by employees is viewed as competition.
Maintaining appearances for the micromanager or bully is a constant preoccupation. They see themselves as “Large and In Charge” and will take advantage of every opportunity to make known the purportedly prestigious positions they hold.
Kindness, consideration, ethics, truth, and honesty are almost nonexistent for this destructive personality type while on the job. On the other hand, they will expect all of these wonderful qualities from others. They do not feel that those qualities are required from them toward workers, viewed as “the help.”
The micromanager, and bully are rarely recognized for their true character by anyone not in their employment or under their management. Often, they operate under a facade of politeness and virtue. The real temperament of the bully is not exposed, since it may take weeks, months, or years to be discovered. This temperament can change suddenly from polite and virtuous to mean-spirited and scheming from day to day, or moment to moment, and one target may be the only goal for that day or moment.
Mental and emotional exhaustion takes hold as workers are on constant alert, and an atmosphere of heaviness envelops the office, leaving workers in despair. Employees begin to disappear, leaving clients to assume those workers were not capable of possessing the lofty attributes required by the organization as portrayed by the micromanager, or bully.
Clients do not understand the paradigm in that workplace. When the truth begins to become apparent to outsiders, and the demons are facing exposure, the need for staff changes is automatically triggered. New, unsuspecting employees are hired buying more time before the atmosphere once again becomes too toxic to hide.
Be aware that the “demons” discussed in this commentary inhabit workplaces and are vicious and destructive. Avoid them when and wherever encountered. In other words, “run for the hills” as they are the cause of depression, low productivity, and creators of devalued workers.
Employees are the cornerstone of successful organizations, deserving to be treated as valued members of that workplace. When such a toxic environment exists, workers will suffer many
types of disturbing behavior and attacks. There is no evidence that low self-esteem is the cause for bullying; this behavior seemingly stems from the fear that individual employees will “show them up.” Unfortunately, there are rarely winners in this dreadful situation. Micromanagers, and bullies in the workplace have devastating effects on employees and their environment which will eventually become apparent to clients.